To my husband of 7 months and partner for 9 years —
Now and then, I get so wrapped up in my day-to-day, that I forget to tell you how much I appreciate every little thing you do for me— for US*. And today, I want to tell you, in writing, how extraordinary you make me feel and how much I love and admire you, not just as my husband, but as a man, a friend, a son, and my partner for life.
My sweet Joey, there is never a moment that the mere glimpse of your face doesn’t grace my memory without bringing a smile to mine. Every day, I thank the universe and I thank God for bringing you into my life. And I think to myself, how did we get so lucky to find each other in this great big world? I guess it’s not that big after all, or at least, not large enough to keep two soulmates away from each other. It took us twenty years to find each other, but what’s two decades compared to the rest of our lives?
This past week, I have watched you work your ass off in putting together our closet (which we both know by the amount of clothes and shoes I have, that it is more mine than yours). I have watched you make multiple runs to Home Depot to get more materials and drill holes into our wall and cut metal to make everything fit and look great. And you’ve asked nothing more of me than two simple things: Go with you to Bed, Bath & Beyond to pick out the closet material and vacuum the wood floor so that our shoes don’t get dusty, while you continue to work on one side of the closet.
And this is just a small corner of our home. This is only a tiny fraction of all the hard work you’ve put into making our house a home. From waking up at dawn each morning and driving from your dad’s house to ours to turn off the porch light (so that the house wouldn’t stay dark at night while we were still packing our things at our parents’ house, getting ready to move out), to hiring workers and working tirelessly all day, removing tile and vinyl and breaking walls and ensuring the workers stay on track so that we can have the house ready by the time we came back from our honeymoon. Darling, you truly outdid yourself. Let me backtrack for a second and thank you for being the reason we have this house today. Had it not been for you, chasing the mortgage broker and ensuring the loan company had everything they asked for (every five minutes), running back and forth to the bank and everything in between, we wouldn’t be where we are today (a year later).
Thank you for your dedication, your exceptional financial (and organizational) skills, which have taught me so much about the importance of money and values. I know I still have a lot more to learn, since my shopping habits are sometimes, a bit out of control, but, I try. Thank you for loving my family and friends the same way I do; For accepting them and treating them with kindness and respect. As you say, “If you know Olivia, you know there are very few things she loves more than her friends”… For my friends are my family— and surely, with time, they’ve become your family too.
Thank you for your patience, your kindness and your love. Your PATIENCE is grand- it not only helps you cope with the fact that I am always running late, but it comes in handy when you are teaching me about things I don’t quite understand (like when you pop the hood of my car and try to explain to me what’s going with the engine and how my car battery just died, when my car is brand new). It will also come in handy the day we have kids. Because there’s nothing funnier than you laughing at me when I roll my eyes at the sound of screaming (bratty) children at Target. A sight for sore eyes, indeed.
Your KINDNESS, above all, is one of the things I admire most about you. It’s the way you are with your mother and your grandmother and the love for your nieces. It’s the way your solid mind functions parallel to your unselfish heart. It’s how you act, from your heart, that sets you apart; your values and the genuine way you are always willing to lend a hand, no questions asked. Some people might think you are just a ‘serious’ guy, but contrary to their beliefs and to how society acts in today’s day and age, I say they’re just not used to someone who is simply so RAW. You are nothing like the people I know. You don’t act on impulse, you think, always, before you speak, you analyze situations and you’re a problem solver. But above all, you are humble, smart, sharp and honest… and honest people are hard to come by these days. You are true to yourself and your heart and you always do what is right and what is just.
But your LOVE… your love is what drives me, what motivates me, what moves me. It is the very heart of me. Your love sets my soul on fire and it is the very reason I never ever feel alone or unprotected. Your love is uplifting and it carries me, weightlessly, through all my troubles, my sorrows, my good days and even the bad ones. Your love is like the sun, always constant and always there to brighten up my days. And like the moon, your love lights the way through dark moments, pulling me closer into the beautiful magnetic field that is your heart.
So today, my love, today and everyday, I thank you. I thank you for all the joy you have brought to my life in nearly a decade. I thank you for all of the sacrifices you have made to give us a better life and building a solid foundation for our future. I thank you for making me a better person. I thank you, simply, for every great reason that makes you the extraordinary human being that you are. And I am just lucky to know that you and I exist in the same universe, at the same time.
I love you. Endlessly. Fearlessly. Hopelessly.
I LOVE YOU.
Your wife and best friend,